Friday, October 30, 2009
However, I burst into tears over a discussion with my dad where he didn't believe rape could be used as a tool of war, especially in places like the Congo, and he thought it was stupid to talk about how materials use in cell phones and digital cameras contributes to the ongoing civil war there.
It could have been the fact that he was in town for my grad school graduation, I was moving away from all my friends and facing unemployment and the unknown, but honestly, he just came off as an asshole. He lacked in caring about my emotional investment in the issue to the point where I had to go into the bathroom and burst into tears. Twice. I infrequently display unhappy emotions to other people, much less cry more than two or three tears.
Anyway. That's just my story about facing an argument and coming off as emotional. Anybody else want to share?
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
How do I, as a middle class, highly educated white person committed to dismantling white privilege, find, move and live into* a multicultural neighborhood without contributing to gentrification?
*I choose into deliberately because I want to live into the life of my neighborhood. I want to contribute to the well-being of my neighborhood and actively take part in events and my neighbor's lives.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
In addition, not all abortions are unwanted pregnancies.
Sometimes women and families have to make the painful decision to terminate a pregnancy on medical grounds (both mother and child) when the child is very much wanted. Often, these women go to late term abortion clinics and in some states, force fed "Women's Right to Know" bullshit on how much pain a fetus can feel and shown pictures of a developing fetus.
What to know what I think women have a right to know? That they can make their own personal and medical decisions free from another person's judgment, especially during a terrible time such as terminating a pregnancy due to health reasons.
Just one more reason we need to keep reproductive rights safe, legal, and in my opinion, free from pro-life harassment.
Monday, October 19, 2009
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
So, Impersonators, are you out? Want to be out? As an ally, has someone come out to you? Want to share a story or discuss the pros and cons of being out? Let's try it.
A reminder that comments are moderated, so I'll make this as safe a space as I can for anyone interested in talking about this.
Monday, October 12, 2009
We'll be talking about Roman Polanski, "chick lit," and playing female-friendly music like Alanis Morissette, Ani DiFranco, and more!
Tune in, and call us 309-341-7441.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Saturday, October 10, 2009
I began wanting a tattoo and nose piercing when I was 12. My parents, conservative immigrant Jews, were very much opposed to both ideas. The tattoo they talked me out of by convincing me I wouldn't be able to be buried in a Jewish cemetery when I died. The nose ring was tougher. My mom used good old fashion guilt and scare tactics, "you'd be breaking my heart," "no one will take you seriously," "what will my friends think?" I decided then that I would obey my parents' wishes for a few years and if I still wanted the body art as an "adult" I would make the choice based on my person politics, not theirs.
I wanted my first tattoo to be symbolic and meaningful not just to me but to my goals and values. I settled on an adaptation of Picasso’s dove, holding an olive branch in her mouth. She has a green eye to match my eyes. In Judaism, doves symbolize peace and love. According to the story of the Great Flood , Noah released a dove in order to see if it would find land. The dove came back carrying an olive branch in its mouth, indicating that there was dry land (and hope for a peaceful future) once again.
Friday, October 9, 2009
Photoshop the Ugly out of your pictures
Hello all, I'm working on a project right now where I want to
show my skills retouching photos in Photoshop. I need some before photos so I
can make some lovely afters. So it would be awesome if you could send me photos
that you have that could use some free retouching. I'm looking for photos that
Acne, wrinkles, arm fat, tan lines, etc. that you would like
old photos that have dust spots, scratches, smudges, etc.
a sign or some small object removed
I could even do fun things like maybe add some bling to you,
add a new hair do, give you more muscle definition, put your face on a hot
ladies body, whatever you wish, just let me know.
I know this woman from high school and she was calling herself a feminist before I was. I know she works in graphic design, but how can I explain (in a context on Facebook) what exactly my issues are with her work? Any ideas, Impersonators?
Monday, October 5, 2009
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Feminism: Advocates of censorship and thought control.
Rape means more than "Sex with a woman that didn't want it".
Shame that feminists refuse to acknowledge this, and instead try to make every single thing on earth solely about them.
Why... one might as well call it "What about teh wimmenz???"
Not. Everything. Is. About. You.
Rape has multiple meanings, look it up, please. Celebrating this moron makes you look foolish and ignorant.
Also, there's no such thing as rape culture. Pushing idiotic buzzwords just makes you look idiotic.
Thank you, Anonymous for your lovely, though-provoking comment.
I'll have to admit, you're right about one thing. Rape does mean more than "sex with a woman that didn't want" - I'll broaden the definition to "sex with a person that didn't want it". Because that's EXACTLY what rape is.
Unless, of course, you're refering to the less commonly used definition of rape as "an Old World herb (Brassica napus) of the mustard family grown as a forage crop and for its seeds which yield rapeseed oil and are a bird food" (M-W). I'm going to use my deductive reasoning skills here and guess that's not what you mean, or what the person who used rape originally intended. "I'm going to herb of the mustard family you in this video game"? Nope.
So when we refer to rape, it's talking about "sex with a person that didn't want it", FYI.
Impersonators, any other important things I'm forgetting about in our definition of rape?