tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post3708145459798820164..comments2023-05-14T03:03:09.451-05:00Comments on Female Impersonator: How do we respond to face-to-face racism/sexism/heterosexism/isms?Ameliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-48322692678855446562009-06-11T22:41:20.959-05:002009-06-11T22:41:20.959-05:00A lot would depend on how you did it, and if you k...A lot would depend on how you did it, and if you knew his story first. I'm reminded of my friend, a Chicana, who was on a walk, and some guy with swistika tattoos etc asked her for money. She bought him a sandwich instead and listen to his story, sharing hers. He had been in prison and gotten his tatts there. Couldn't afford to get them removed and was working through his feelings about races. If she had hit him with a lot of hate, what message would that bring? That hate is okay?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-73163381834559071242009-06-03T21:58:04.677-05:002009-06-03T21:58:04.677-05:00It still comes back to "Nothing you could hav...It still comes back to "Nothing you could have done would have affected the situation at all" (except most likely adversely).<br /><br />If someone has gone so far as to permanently etch these things in their body, that message will never be well-received. That's just all their is to it.<br /><br />As wrong as someone else's beliefs/thoughts might be, they're still entitled to have them. Then you reach the ground of whether or not it's your place to even try to sway someone's views.<br /><br />You can't force tolerance, and I'm hoping no laws ever fall into place that make it illegal to hate somebody else, or have views other than what someone thinks is "appropriate".<br /><br />Comes back to that quote about not liking what you have to say, but defending to the death your right to say it.<br /><br />Anyhow, divinity school, huh? In all honesty, from what I've read, feminism+religion are oil+water.<br /><br />How/why did you end up going there?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-46567235755675966952009-06-02T09:41:48.205-05:002009-06-02T09:41:48.205-05:00Another reason I was hesitant to mention anything ...Another reason I was hesitant to mention anything is because it was a really small wedding - 30 people in number and my immediate family made up a fifth of that. I doubted if anything I said could have made a difference and if that same message would have been better received if from a family member of someone he actually knows.<br /><br />I think the question "what's at stake" is incredibly important for any type of action hoping to lead to acceptance. People have built worldviews in particular ways and to disrupt that dramatically may not be the best option. <br /><br />@Anon<br />Divinity school is like seminary but associated with a university, so more academic in focus. Although the school confers M.Div (ministerial) degrees, I received an academic Masters degree.lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13285797515594923013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-36704808206017265112009-06-02T01:13:17.417-05:002009-06-02T01:13:17.417-05:00First, what's "divinity school"?
Secondly, I don'...First, what's "divinity school"?<br /><br />Secondly, I don't think it was really a lack of action on your part, per se.<br /><br />If you look at it from another angle, what COULD you have done? It's not as though, even in the best of situations, he'd leave the wedding early to get a tattoo removal, or something.<br /><br />American History X doesn't happen as much in real life. Usually some people are set in stone.<br /><br />That said, speaking up for the sake of speaking up isn't always effective. Speaking up when you can affect something is probably more important, I think.<br /><br />I dunno. I'm rambling around, but I'm assuming you get my meaning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-5733425163258630742009-06-02T00:02:53.177-05:002009-06-02T00:02:53.177-05:00Those realities outside the fragile bubble of camp...Those realities outside the fragile bubble of campus belong to you. Why not go explore--meet this person--instead of relying on the opinions of others?<br /><br />Not saying I do this much. I'll rely on others. I'll defer almost any decision which doesn't really matter to me. I hear many facts about other people. I like those. It's the opinions of others which I want so labelled.<br /><br />I just completed a course which effectively for a motto <I>What's at stake?</I> It's helped me look at our society to figure out what's happening, how, and what it means for myself and others.<br /><br />The word empowerment just came to mind. Is this an appropriate word for describing self-motivated learning and interacting with others voluntarily?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com