tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post3976971273610578488..comments2023-05-14T03:03:09.451-05:00Comments on Female Impersonator: "Rape has never been a punishment for stupidity"Ameliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-82640376807523271642008-05-03T19:11:00.000-05:002008-05-03T19:11:00.000-05:00I'm not saying if a nun gets raped she'd be to bla...<I>I'm not saying if a nun gets raped she'd be to blame.</I><BR/><BR/>So you have to be a nun to avoid having some blame in your rape?lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13285797515594923013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-20083414975128399522008-05-03T17:14:00.000-05:002008-05-03T17:14:00.000-05:00Jezabel, You can blame one person. If someone mak...Jezabel,<BR/> You can blame one person. If someone makes a decision to commit a crime then they are 100% to blame. No one else is to blame. Got it? <BR/> If I decided to assault you one night would you be to blame for my actions? <BR/> I'm sure I could nitpick at every little thing you did in a pathetic attempt to cast attention away from what I did (and believe me I'll have plenty of things you did/didn't do to nitpick about) but when it comes down to it, nothing you did or didn't do caused me to commit a crime against you - me making the decision to do it was the cause. Some things you did or didn't do may have made it easier or harder, but the decision and action would be all mine. The blame would be all mind. <BR/><BR/> And your other comment:<BR/><I>And yes, men can take steps to stop it. That's true. But they don't. So they take some of the blame too.</I><BR/> Men can and should take steps to stop rape since, you know, they're the ones who do the overwhelming majority of the raping. The fact that they don't is the real problem here so we should be addressing THEM to change and not placing this all on the women's shoulders. There is a post on the Feminism 101 blog about this entitled "I Am Not My Cock" and I suggest reading it as well as all the other posts about rape. <BR/> Goose, you could stand to read those posts too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-60699620308469696132008-05-03T16:43:00.000-05:002008-05-03T16:43:00.000-05:00Okay... as with all generalizations there are exce...Okay... as with all generalizations there are exceptions to every rule.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06073483751626337353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-71229259737678756722008-05-03T16:39:00.000-05:002008-05-03T16:39:00.000-05:00"In rape, everyone has some action that leads to t..."In rape, everyone has some action that leads to the rape."<BR/><BR/>Really, even little kids raped by their fathers? Men raped in prison? Women in the Middle East raped as punishment for their brother's crimes? Women who take a cab home from a bar and are raped by their cab drivers?Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139058825727884888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-3487357607707890142008-05-03T16:33:00.000-05:002008-05-03T16:33:00.000-05:00It places some blame on the victim, sure... but in...It places <I>some</I> blame on the victim, sure... but in situations such as that, everyone, including people who are just observers, all share a part of blame.<BR/><BR/>I'm not saying if a nun gets raped she'd be to blame.<BR/><BR/>And yes, men can take steps to stop it. That's true. But they don't. So they take some of the blame too. You can't blame ONE person for anything.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06073483751626337353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-18560282635689697472008-05-03T15:59:00.000-05:002008-05-03T15:59:00.000-05:00It is victim-blaming, Jezebel, as long as you refu...It is victim-blaming, Jezebel, as long as you refuse to make mention of any sort of action that men can take to stop rape. I have not heard you say anything that men can do about preventing rape. It has all been about what women should do.<BR/><BR/>That places the blame on the victim. That is victim-blaming.<BR/><BR/>I am in the middle of writing another post about this topic.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-6272573534651574032008-05-03T15:45:00.000-05:002008-05-03T15:45:00.000-05:00It isn't victim-blaming!!It's an act of violent, s...It isn't victim-blaming!!<BR/><BR/>It's an act of violent, sexual force/power over another who was placed in the situation partially due to their unconscious actions and partially due to the views of society and the rapist. <BR/><BR/>It's not victim-blaming. In rape, <I>everyone</I> has some action that leads to the rape.<BR/><BR/><I>No one gets dressed going out for the night thinking, "I won't wear that because I might get raped." Or at least people shouldn't. I should be able to wear whatever I want. </I><BR/>No one thinks that, and people DO wear what they want. Women just need to accept that certain outfits draw the wrong kind of attention that lead to consequences - everything in life has a consequence. Some are positive. Some are negative. Rape is a negative consequence.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06073483751626337353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-91957501449027042362008-05-03T15:24:00.000-05:002008-05-03T15:24:00.000-05:00For me, these comments seem to ignore the fact tha...For me, these comments seem to ignore the fact that rape isn't about sex - it's about power. None of the comments acknowledge that.<BR/><BR/><I>It's a horrible consequence of not fully thinking out decisions and actions.</I><BR/><BR/>No no no no no. Stop the victim-blaming. It's a horrible thing done by someone else and that is no fault of the person who has been raped - regardless of decisions or actions. No one gets dressed going out for the night thinking, "I won't wear that because I might get raped." Or at least people shouldn't. I should be able to wear whatever I want. <BR/><BR/>Rape isn't about wanting to have sex with a drunk person, it's about having power over another person.lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13285797515594923013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-29618249224360423662008-05-03T14:57:00.000-05:002008-05-03T14:57:00.000-05:00Right, but they also made it sound like if a woman...Right, but they also made it sound like if a woman didn't take every possible precaution, she was stupid, and basically asking for the rape. <BR/><BR/>How is that fair?Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-87222751019100410482008-05-03T14:54:00.000-05:002008-05-03T14:54:00.000-05:00I think what alot of the commentors actually meant...I think what alot of the commentors actually meant was that rape, unfortunately, still occurs in our society so women should take precautions to avoid it. Just like theft or any other crime.Goosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05425919642933133023noreply@blogger.com