tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post4473115953389730284..comments2023-05-14T03:03:09.451-05:00Comments on Female Impersonator: You're a woman. Now make some babies!Ameliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-50460708593696079922010-07-20T10:03:37.566-05:002010-07-20T10:03:37.566-05:00Very well said, Amelia. It is frusterating when wo...Very well said, Amelia. It is frusterating when women have children and they clearly were never meant to have kids. In the experiance I know first hand, the girls grew up unloved and a little mentally abused. The mother left her 14 year old daughter and told her to find somewhere to go. With no money or anything. Yet somehow every women is pressured to have kids, because it is the 'right' thing to do.Creativechaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06729804586762152459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-84096723536445890692010-07-19T17:46:25.135-05:002010-07-19T17:46:25.135-05:00@Amelia and @Christina, I'm from the UK, and i...@Amelia and @Christina, I'm from the UK, and i have a friend who had two children of about 3 & 4 and she asked her GP to get her tubes tied (both births were emergency c section, the second nearly killed her andshe was also told any further pregnancies could kill her) and yet she was told she couldn't have the op. Apparently, at 25, her tubes could magically untie because she was so young. She was given various forms of contraception instead. I find it odd that they advised her that further pregnancies would be life-threatening, but wouldn't tie her tubes, although she wanted it. Maybe the docs were right, about the magic, and contraception was safer...gimcrack girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-77047525930424833002010-07-19T12:11:21.128-05:002010-07-19T12:11:21.128-05:00@innessfree: I would have to agree with the idea t...<b>@innessfree</b>: I would have to agree with the idea that there are a lot of children in this world who are already here and in need of caring parents, which might be a reason for people to consider other means of parenting, such as adoption, as opposed to having their own children. However, I would not feel comfortable thinking of anyone who decided to have their own children as selfish. Mostly, I think I feel this way because if we reverse my argument in this post, it would be unfair to label people based on our personal ideas about how they should handle their reproductive capacities, and what kinds of families we think are <i>better</i> than others. But I definitely agree that it's horrible for someone who knows they aren't ready/wanting to be a parent to be coerced into or otherwise become a parent because really, that's a lose/lose situation for the child and the parent.<br /><br /><b>@Saranga</b>: I'm afraid of that! I'm still in college now, so no one in my family is seriously expecting me to settle down for at least a few years, but I know they'll start asking questions because that's what people do in my family: Get married and have babies. Ugh.<br /><br /><b>@Christina</b>: Thanks for your comment. It actually brings up a really interesting point that had come up with my mother a few weeks ago. She said that after she had my younger sister, her second child, that she wanted to get her tubes tied. This was in the very early 90's. She said she had to go through counseling before they would tie her tubes, as if a woman could not possibly want to do away with her natural reproductive capacity and be mentally healthy. Infuriating was exactly what I thought when I heard that! Does anyone know if that's still common practice? I have no idea how those things work. I should probably do some reading.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10884754298018500343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-2268136223905916412010-07-19T06:48:02.680-05:002010-07-19T06:48:02.680-05:00As another childfree woman, I agree so so much. Pe...As another childfree woman, I agree so so much. People expect me to change my mind, but I am certain that children are not for me and have known this my whole life. I just dismiss those comments as much as I can, but I expect it'll get harder as I get older (I'm 24) and it becomes more and more of an expectation that I have/want kids.<br /><br />The part about men pressuring their wives to have kids is chilling but sadly not surprising. I have an ex boyfriend who would definitely have been like that had we stayed together long enough. I'm super grateful that my fiance doesn't want kids either and is actually scheduled for a vasectomy next week. <br /><br />Of course, the fact that it was really easy for him to get his tubes tied whereas nobody will even consider tying my tubes is another issue... Obviously women don't know what they actually want and can't be trusted to make decisions like that. So infuriating!Christinahttp://www.towards-emotional-health.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-61327061047411025952010-07-19T06:32:09.904-05:002010-07-19T06:32:09.904-05:00"When I've expressed these feelings to va..."When I've expressed these feelings to various people, it has been said that I will change my mind once I grow older"<br /><br />I'm 30, I still get people telling me this. Even those folks who I have known for 10 years and who I have always answered the question with I don't want kids.<br /><br />It never fails to get tiresome.Sarangahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03545162612237984546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-313251358884428542010-07-19T02:16:43.740-05:002010-07-19T02:16:43.740-05:00And thank you for your post. :)And thank you for your post. :)n/ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15040102789670476536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6730657139931062421.post-37674938490312755932010-07-19T02:16:43.739-05:002010-07-19T02:16:43.739-05:00I completely agree with you. Personally, I would l...I completely agree with you. Personally, I would like children, but I recognize that it's MY choice and I have no right to foist that choice on others, or to withhold it from them. However, I recognize that my future motherhood may feel bittersweet, because I actually feel the opposite of most people--<br /><br />I think that it is selfish to HAVE children, not to remain childless. I can't understand how it could be conceived as selfish to forgo motherhood, considering that the world is severely overpopulated. The argument that we must propagate to preserve the human race is ridiculous, since we are thriving TOO vigorously. Parenthood is pure vanity. (Unfortunately, it's a vanity that I wish to ascribe to. I know, I'm a hypocrite. But if I can't get pregnant naturally, I'm not going to do all those ridiculous fertility treatments. I'm going to adopt, since that makes far more sense than forcing reproduction.)<br /><br />Furthermore, I think it would be far more selfish of a person to have a child, fully knowing that he/she isn't really cut out for parenthood.n/ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15040102789670476536noreply@blogger.com