Saturday, October 2, 2010
Monday, April 27, 2009
I can't say I'm against cosmetic surgery, because I feel that doing so would be an infringement upon a woman's right to choose what she wants to do with herself, which I believe in strongly. But I do have a problem with women in many societies having to deal with the idea that age is something to be ashamed of and youthful looks should be sought at any price.
In the article linked to above, Janet Cunliffe, aged 50, said she wanted to look like her daughter, Jane, who is 29 in order to gain some confidence about herself.
"I decided to do it because I was feeling low at the time, I'd just come out of a long-term relationship, so just to boost my confidence. My daughter inspired me at the time, so I just wanted to look like her and to make me feel a lot more youthful and to give me some confidence."The problem of correlating one's physical appearance with one's worth is such an integral part of being a women in many societies that it's sometimes one that isn't thought about. It's definitely an issue that I struggle (often unsuccessfully) to think of ways to conquer in my life.
And this article, I feel, is not helpful. It draws attention to this woman because she has completely bought into the troubling idea that appearing youthful is the only way to feel good about oneself after reaching middle age. It validates her feelings of discontent with appearing her natural age, and helps give reason for other women to feel the same way.
So, question: How can we make this cycle stop?
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
The basic premise of this website is that there are women out there who want cosmetic surgery, breast implants, to be specific, who can't afford it. The website states that its goal is two bring together two groups of people:
Women that have a strong desire to enhance their physical appearance through cosmetic surgery.
Benefactors who wish to help these women improve their self esteem and confidence through cosmetic surgery.
Along with your bio you can upload an unlimited number of pictures of yourself. These pictures are one of the key components towards achieving your goals. (emphasis mine)The Benefactors, it seems, are supposed to be men (although not stated explicitly), and they can buy message credits in order to send messages to the women seeking cosmetic surgeries. These benefactors then help the women earn credit for their procedures.
And remember... the best part is seeing the newly transformed ladies after the surgery when they return to the website to post pictures of the results. You can take pride in knowing that you helped her improve her self esteem and self image!That is where my main problem lies. I can just not get down with the idea that these women are going to owe the self-confidence and sense of self-worth that they gain from these procedures to other people (most likely men).
I understand that the Benefactors do not necessarily have to be men, but the feeling I got from this website was very heteronormative (if anyone disagrees, please comment!). Anyway, I have major problems with women, and people in general, basing so much of their self-worth on the opinions/desires of others instead of on their own accomplishments and talents.
In the FAQ section of the website, the question "Do I have to pose naked?" was asked. The answer:
Not at all. The content of the pictures you post is entirely up to you. Some ladies choose to reward donors with sexy photos, and the range of "sexy photos" varies greatly from person to person.Another question, "Who will see my pictures?," garnered the response:
The pictures you submit to the site can be viewed by any active benefactor member. Viewing photos however requires a login and password so that your photos are not viewable on a public website. Keep in mind that the more members that see your pictures the sooner you will reach your goals. (emphasis mine)This site just does not sit right with me. It promotes this messed up idea of women easily getting what they want through being "sexy" by emphasizing the importance of pictures. It also seems to reinforce the idea of these women "owing" their new sense of worth/confidence not to anything of their own doing, but to the people who donated money, and that's really not a sustainable base for something as important as self-worth.
This site just really rubs me the wrong way, despite the positive message it tries to send.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
This condition can result from any surgery requiring anesthesia, but the fact that Stephanie's purely cosmetic surgery led to her death is saddening.
"The death has focused attention on elective breast augmentation surgery, a procedure that 347,500 women of all ages chose to have in 2007 alone. That number is 6 percent higher than in 2006 and 64 percent higher than in 2000.
Although the FDA recommends that only women 18 or older get breast implants, the number of girls under that age submitting themselves to the surgery continues to grow. In 2005, the last year for which full statistics are available, more than 3,500 girls had breast implants."What kind of society teaches young girls to be so dissatisfied with their bodies at such young ages that they opt to go under the knife, even when that could cause death? Does anyone have any ideas about how to address this issue, and possibly change it?