I like to peruse the PostSecret blog every Sunday. This is one of the postcards I found this week, and it made me wonder, Why?
Why should this feminist feel bad when her boyfriend does something to her that she clearly enjoys? If it was consensual, I say her feminist should just enjoy the experience without any hidden guilt.
I have heard people say, "I believe in women's rights, but I like to wear dresses, so I'm not really a feminist," or "I like guys and I want to get married, so I'm not a feminist."
The problem with these all-too-common (false) assumptions about feminists is that they assume that feminism only includes one type of woman, and that woman is a nonsexual, androgynous lesbian. Is that description true of some feminists? Absolutely. But that by no means implies that is the only kind of feminist. Feminism includes so many different women, all with different feminist concentrations, looks, and personal tastes that it is wrong to assume that someone is not a feminist because of one aspect of their life. The picture is much bigger than that.
In short, you can be a feminist even if you like being spanked, as long as you CHOOSE to be spanked. This person's secret makes it seem like she feels un-feminist because she enjoys being spanked, and I would have to heartily disagree with that idea.